The Awkward Middle Between Mastery and Becoming
How to stay a beginner when you’re supposed to know
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The strangest part of growth is how often it feels like shrinkage. You step up a level and suddenly everything you were good at is further away: less craft, more context; fewer hard edges, more ambiguity. Your calendar fills with people and relationship management. Meanwhile, the hands‑on work that once grounded you becomes something you supervise rather than do.
If you feel disoriented here, you’re paying a hidden tax:
Each step up trades immediate mastery for wider perspective. That trade is real and it hurts because identity is sticky. When the work changes, your story about who you are has to stretch or it will snap.
We are often promoted for excellence in one domain and then asked to perform in a different one. The old skills signal potential, but the new role demands a different way of seeing: less “How do I do this?” and more “What are we doing and why?”
Instead of concluding that, all of a sudden, you have “become bad,” try: “I’m at the start of a new curve.”
The gap you feel is altitude sickness. It eases when you build new mental models for the bigger game: strategy, systems, relationships.
You’ll notice I’ve included quotes throughout; I find them helpful because they name challenges we all feel but often struggle to articulate.
Begin Again: Making “Beginner’s Mind” a Practice
When everything resets, it’s tempting to pretend you still know. That impulse is human, but also unhelpful. What if “beginner” wasn’t a label we shed but a posture we keep?
Zen calls this shoshin — beginner’s mind — an orientation of openness and non‑preconception even when you’re seasoned. It’s the antidote to the curse of expertise, where experience narrows possibilities until we’re just confirming what we already believe.
“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” - Shunryū Suzuki
In organisations, this looks like leaders who ask naïve questions on purpose, who show their working, who treat hypotheses as provisional. It also looks like the humility to say “I don’t know yet — let’s run a small experiment.” In this spirit, Satya Nadella transformed Microsoft’s culture during his decade as CEO by turning everyone into ‘learn-it-alls’ instead of ‘know-it-alls.’
There’s a second reason to practice shoshin: our brains love certainty. Once we lock onto a story, we selectively gather evidence to defend it. The research on overconfidence is clear: the more novice we are, the more we can overestimate ourselves; and the more expert we become, the more blind we can be to adjacent possibilities. Beginner’s mind is a guardrail on sides.
If “beginner” feels like a demotion, change the unit of measure. At higher levels, the job is to learn in public: to connect dots and move the group from confusion to clarity. Your craft shifts from doing the work to designing the work": from answers to (the art of asking) questions.
“Yet all my teaching and consulting experience has taught me that what builds a relationship, what solves problems, what moves things forward is asking the right questions.” - Edgar H. Schein
Rethinking How You Learn at the Next Level
When the implications of seniority hit, many of us default to self‑repair. We devour productivity hacks, add apps, set 4:30 a.m. alarms. That might even be helpful, sometimes. But what we really need is to stop treating discomfort as evidence of defect.
You don’t need fixing; you need a learning strategy that fits the level you’re on. Three shifts help in my experience:
A. From self‑critique to self‑compassion:
Self‑compassion isn’t indulgence. Instead of “I’m behind; I’m bad,” try “This is hard; I’m human; what’s the next useful step?” Leaders who can extend that stance to themselves tend to create the psychological safety others need to learn, too.
“Rather than wandering around in problem-solving mode all day, thinking mainly of what you want to fix about yourself or your life, you can pause for a few moments throughout the day to marvel at what’s not broken.” - Kristin Neff
B. From self‑improvement to psychological flexibility:
The ability to stay present with discomfort and still take values‑aligned action is one of the strongest skills you can develop (check out acceptance and commitment therapy if you’re interested in more about this!). The point isn’t to eliminate anxiety or doubt; it’s to keep moving even if you feel them. In leadership, that looks like naming what’s uncertain, choosing a direction and committing to the smallest next action that tests your hypothesis (note how this is connected with point A).
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Victor E. Frankl
C. From grind to deliberate practice:
At senior levels, “working harder” rarely fixes anything because the bottleneck isn’t effort but it’s clarity. Deliberate practice means breaking the meta‑skill into sub‑skills and designing reps: stakeholder mapping, decision memos, 30‑minute synthesis presentations, one‑to‑one feedback that actually lands. Short loops and fast feedback.
“The problem with problem solving is that it is a mode of mind that does not know when to stop.” - Steven C. Hayes
The Identity Shift Beneath The Skill Shift
Promotions bring new tasks, but, more than that, they introduce new meanings. Adult development research suggests we grow by moving what used to have us (our assumptions, reactions and roles) into what we can hold and examine. In practice, that means noticing the parts of identity that feel threatened when you stop being “the expert” and start being “the one who convenes experts.”
Try naming the old story (e.g., “I’m valuable because I deliver perfect solutions quickly”) and drafting a new one (e.g., “I’m valuable because I frame problems clearly, ask the right questions, and build a team that ships.”).
“We uncovered a phenomenon we call “the immunity to change,” a heretofore hidden dynamic that actively (and brilliantly) prevents us from changing because of its devotion to preserving our existing way of making meaning.” - Robert Kegan
This is also where “range” helps. At this stage, your advantage may be pattern recognition — integrating across domains and seeing second-order effects. Also, generalist doesn’t mean shallow; it means connecting what specialists can’t easily reach across.
“You have people walking around with all the knowledge of humanity on their phone, but they have no idea how to integrate it.” - David Epstein
I think there are two key conditions that we should seek when navigating a scope jump:
First of all, psychological safety. This is because people learn best when they feel safe to surface risks and admit uncertainty. And you can be the first one to encourage this. For example, you can model fallibility (”Here’s what I might be missing”), invite input (”What are the risks we’re not naming?”), and respond to bad news with curiosity before judgment.
Secondly, I am a big fan of humble inquiry (see my collaboration with Bella | My Ph.Diary. on this - link below). If your identity was built on answers, practice asking questions to which you genuinely don’t know the answer. This opens the information flow you need with greater levels of seniority and shows your team that they are instrumental to your shared success.
Practices for the Awkward Middle
During the transition into a more senior and broader role, everything will shaky. Here is what I recommend everyone should do:
Narrate the change. Say your own version of this to your team: “Here’s what’s changing in my role; here’s what I’ll need from you; here’s where I might drop the ball while I learn.” That honesty earns you time to grow.
Borrow eyes. Identify three people who see things differently from you (discipline, tenure, temperament). Ask them to poke holes in your thinking regularly.
Schedule compassion. Add a few minutes post‑meeting to reflect on your performance with compassion: What was hard? What did I try? What did I learn? What’s the next useful step?
The Reframe To Unlock Your Growth
Growth at senior levels is disorienting because it changes what competence looks like. As we have explored, that shift is uncomfortable because it stretches the story you’ve told about yourself.
We all need to find ways to stay curious while things feel uncertain. To keep listening, even when we think we know. To make decisions without pretending we have all the data. Leaders who grow well make learning visible and shared.
When the ground under you feels unstable, don’t rush to fix it. Take it as a sign that you’ve reached a new level of complexity; one that asks for slower thinking, clearer questions and more trust in the people around you.
Take Action Today
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I’m Andrea, a management consultant with over a decade of experience across industry and academia. I work with commercial, non-profit, academic and government organisations worldwide, helping them capture meaningful insights through mixed methods research.
I write about practical frameworks to help you discover what others miss. My main goal is to translate complex concepts into techniques that readers can use immediately.
✨ The idea of “altitude sickness” is perfect. When scope expands, the nervous system loses its old anchor and tries to cling to mastery for safety. That’s exactly when people slip into overperformance, anxiety, or chronic overload.
Your framing of beginner’s mind and psychological flexibility is a gift. Growth at higher levels isn’t about knowing more — it’s about tolerating not knowing without collapsing into self-critique.
💛 And the reminder that identity must stretch, not snap, feels incredibly important. So many high performers suffer only because they misinterpret transition as decline.
Thank you for putting words to a process that is deeply human and often misunderstood. 🙏
Beginner’s mind demands psychological safety, but high performers often rely on speed and control. What helps them slow down enough to actually inhabit that openness without tipping into anxiety or overload?
Great piece, Andrea. I like how you explained that moving into a bigger role can feel confusing at first. It makes sense that we lose some confidence before we build new skills. Your point about staying curious, asking good questions and learning in public really stood out. It’s a helpful way to think about growing into new responsibilities.